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Soon, I will present you a few intriguing examples of unusual benefits relating to health, wealth, and spiritual maturity. Naturally, to get unusual benefits, unusual methods will be required.

While conventional methods can reliably produce average results, certain unconventional methods reliably produce vastly superior results. Typically, the results that I will present you will include results so far from what is familiar to most people that they will respond with either fascination or skepticism (or both). So, which is more important to you: reliably accessing vastly superior results or totally avoiding exposure to new experiences that might challenge you to increase the precision of your presumptions?

Topics below:

Is The Wise Builder for you?

Social pressure and hysterical conformity

Relieving and reversing chronic social anxiety

Are there benefits to resolving chronic paranoia?



Who is this site for?

THE WISE BUILDER website is for people who are so motivated to thrive that they are open to learning. That idea may seem rather odd, because we might wonder this: "why would someone be ever closed to learning?"

First, relative to some immediate goal, people may prefer to avoid immediate distractions. That can include avoiding the potential uncertainty involved in learning new things.

When we have an immediate priority and we also know a method that we are confident will satisfy the immediate goal, then finding new methods is of no interest, right? To stay focused on applying familiar, satisfactory methods, we would be at least hesitant to invest time in exploring new methods. Why bother?

However, that is not an active resistance to learning in general. That is just being currently content with a certain familiar method.

So, this site is for people who are currently open to respectfully exploring unfamiliar results and the unfamiliar methods that reliably produce those results. Maybe you are focused on a particular goal, but are skeptical about conventional methods (or disappointed with their results).

Further, this particular introductory section is for people who are open to exploring a topic that will not be attractive to everyone: the topic of how a large number of people will develop a chronic distress relating to a hysterical resistance to learning. Related to how that chronic anxiety or distress forms is the topic of how that chronic paranoia can subside or even completely dissolve (and, further, what practical benefits will result from the dissolving of a hysterical resistance to learning).

To jump ahead to a list of other intriguing results, click here. To continue, scroll down.

Social pressure and hysterical conformity

In my life, I have experienced what I will call "social pressure" to glorify certain ideas and vilify certain others. That experience of social pressure involved distress. I would actively resist ideas or evidence that I perceived to be "socially threatening."

I would even ridicule or otherwise harass people that I perceived to be researching ideas that were contrary to my socially-programmed ideals. However, what was even more threatening to me was not unfamiliar ideas, but any direct criticism of my familiar ideas. I operated in a chronic distress or paranoia in which I compulsively invested energy in to vigorously defending myself against learning. For me to show respect or interest in an unfamiliar idea would be a cause of great shame.

In fact, being open to new ideas would expose my ongoing shame. Learning would not bring shame. I already was ashamed. Learning (at least of a certain kind) would simply reveal my shame.

So, I learned to adapt to my social setting by avoiding learning in general. Instead, I focused on memorizing conventional ideas without examining or verifying the accuracy of those ideas. I only learned whatever ideas and topics were socially-reinforced.

I was not just avoiding learning in general. I was specifically avoiding humility. I was avoiding the humiliation of learning that my programmed presumptions were at least slightly imprecise.

So, can you relate to that? I do not just mean "have you observed other people's hysterical avoidance of learning?" I mean have you ever experienced that sense of intense social panic?

In other pages of this site, I will directly promote particular ideas and methods. Here, I am setting up a context of responsibility. For those who currently prefer to avoid being challenged with unfamiliar ideas, the responsible choice is to proceed no further in this section (at least for now). For those who are invigorated by the idea of greatly improving their results (or even those who are calmly curious), I welcome you to continue. (Again, to skip ahead to a list of remarkable results, click here.)

Relieving and reversing chronic social anxiety

Also, for those who have the capacity to recognize a pattern of chronic paranoia within their own history, this site is offered with the purpose to relieve that state of chronic emotional tension, distress, unease, or dis-ease. Further, beyond merely providing temporary relief from that condition, there is even the opportunity to permanently resolve (reverse) that condition.

How? The natural state of a human does not involve any particular social obsessions (about glorifying or vilifying various ideas or patterns of action). Social obsessions can be learned and they can also be unlearned.

As a reminder, this website is named THE WISE BUILDER. If you are not familiar yet with that ancient parable, I will begin to introduce it now. (Also, I will give a more complete presentation later.)

Imagine a novice builder who wants to build a house in a location with a nice view, perhaps quite close to a sandy beach. The simplest and fastest thing to do would be to begin to build the house on whatever surface or soil is already present. However, while that idea might seem fine to a novice builder who is very eager and optimistic and sincere, that might not be very wise.

Building directly on loose sand means that there will not be a stable, firm foundation. So, that house may be easily disturbed.

Why do I mention that topic (building a home on a weak foundation) in a section about chronic social anxiety? First, note that chronic social anxiety is a result. To put it another way, emotional instability is a result. A contrasting result is emotional stability.

Recall that in my youth, I was exposed to certain social pressures so I began to form habits of obsessing socially about glorifying certain ideas and vilifying certain ideas. I began to develop a long list of social anxieties and obsessions.

Now to connect to the parable of the wise builder and the foolish builder, note that building a life on top of existing social obsessions will mean that those obsessions can easily be disturbed. If my foundations are easily disturbed, then the whole structure can suddenly collapse when an unexpected challenge arises.

How can someone build a structure on the firm bedrock below the loose sand on the surface? They must first remove the sand by digging down to the layer of solid bedrock.

How can someone build a structure on direct perceptiveness rather than on programmed presumptions? They must dig down through the programmed presumptions and the habits of social agonizing.

The wise builder will dig down below the most convenient surface in order to create a more stable structure. The wise mentor will first remove all layers of social paranoia before building a new structure of prudence.

Are there benefits to resolving chronic paranoia?

As someone who has shifted from a lifestyle of chronic agonizing (of agony) to a lifestyle of lifelong learning, I promise you that there are immense benefits. Not only am I newly open to using a variety of unconventional methods (even without fully understanding them), but I am even open to understanding them and developing my own unique methods. Some of these methods have produced extremely favorable results for me, from dramatic health improvements to lasting cash flow improvements to an overall shift in my quality of life.

Clearly, average ways of perceiving only produce average responses. Those average responses produce average results, which can include states of severe shyness (AKA chronic social anxiety), emotional instability, and frequently experiencing the distress of feeling offended (including being worried that a social persona of false competence might be revealed).

Superior ways of perceiving are distinct from average ways because of the superior results that naturally arise from superior ways of perceiving, such as emotional resilience or stability. I find that I remain calm in the midst of controversies that challenge or even distress many people.

So, to access the superior results of some pattern of prudent action, all that is required is to take the relevant action. Understanding and perceptiveness are not required to take a relevant action. But to know which action is most relevant does require perceptiveness.

To access the result of being much calmer and clearer than a typical person, typical levels of perceptiveness will be insufficient. For such an atypical clarity and calm, an atypical perceptiveness must be developed.

Most of the results reported on this site will not require any comprehension of how the methods that produce those results work. Just use the methods and the results will follow.

However, the core theme of this site is about promoting a rather subjective result that I have referenced above in a few ways: emotional resilience, spiritual maturity, unconventional perceptiveness, an unusual openness to learning. If you are powerfully attracted to the prospect of learning several methods of reducing any social anxiety that you may experience (and understanding how to influence the amount of social anxiety that others experience), then click the second option below.

Here are two options:

1) To skip ahead to a list of remarkable results that simply require applying a certain method, click here.

2) To continue exploring the main topic of this site, click here instead.